Spending Money on No-Contact Adult Child . I know how difficult it can be for adult children to get a good financial start after they leave home. . Many times parents step in to help their children financially. . Then a break in the relationship happens. . You are not a bad parent if you decide that you don’t want to spend money on the bills of someone who won’t speak to you. . You are not a good parent if you do spend the money even though your child won’t speak to you. . You are just a parent.