When men try to understand what their wife is capable of, it is most helpful to think about how she is with the kids. Here are ways to frame your wife that are not useful: She is on her phone because she doesn’t love me She only doesn’t want touch because she thinks I’m ugly If I were more attractive to her, she would want to be emotionally closer and talk more I can figure out a way to make her love me more in the ways I value She isn’t interested in my hobbies because she hates me Here are way