We all want closure. A breakup, a sudden job loss, or the death of someone we love can leave us desperate for answers. Wars, natural disasters and shared tragedies stir the same kind of longing.

Many times, from pained students, clients, and friends, I've heard the mantra, "no one can give you closure but yourself". It's usually said defeatedly while holding back tears after they've explained ...

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